UGH! buyer beware. I was on match.com years ago and 99.9% of those guys , when you meet them in person, are either overweight, 10 years older than their photo, or have no teeth (I think Lauren or Dani can back me up there)
Think of the profile as a souped up application, you are wanting to highlight your best features and downplay the negatives. Some guys look so good on paper and you can read the profiles and say wow we are a match..on paper.
Not that I am a non-believer and by all means go for it. I met and dated a few guys who were really pleasant but we just didn't share the same chemistry..two are still friends of mine, they later went on and met their wives on the dating site so it must work.
Ask for lots of photos. Don't give out your number , and make sure your girlfriend is ready to text or call you to get you out of a bad date..work out a code for God sake or you will be stuck sitting in a stinky car with someone like Stinky Troy (one of my experiences..well hey got a nice dinner out of it). PLAN AN ESCAPE!!!
Meet in public, don't give out your number or he'll stalk you when you end the date. Make up a new email address you use just for the dudes (don't give work or personal email..or address). Try to answer questions generally like "I work at a bank" instead of having him meet you AT that bank.
Be prepared for false or inflated info. Because they once read Pride and Prejudice does not make them well read. Because they took a few college classes and claim to have graduated does not mean they have a good job and are free of loan debt. Or even that they are intelligent. They'll say they like romantic dinners and walk on the beach and that's to get you in bed then they'll go back to ESPN and hot dogs.
One of the other reasons I didn't care for the dating site is that I'd be suspicious if they had a lot of recent activity..if you see they are signing in every day and not talking to you , then you have to wonder how many other profiles they are romancing. AND additionally if you see that they have been a member A LONG TIME that is a major red flag. That may mean other women have tossed him back into the pool. Turd no good dude!
I still believe in old fashion eyes meet and instant chemistry. Twu and I had an interest but not a lightning bolt. My first husband and I had the lightning bolt and we still share a love for each other tho we are not together. But we met in person where you can all at once see their eyes, catch their scent, sense their general aura..things that can't be done with a computer
But..a computer can be a great shopping tool
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